DON'T LET YOUR MOTHER BE THE CAUSE OF YOUR MARITAL UNHAPPINESS !!!
It starts when this mothers pressurise their daughters so badly that they eventually break their spirits, the girls ends up saying yes to the next well-to-do guy that comes their way. This isn't a question of love,for the girl doesn't love the guy, the mother knows this but convinces her that she will grow to love him(I pray o).
.....fast forward six months later
Intro -TM-Wedding, .. months into the marriage reality sets in!, compatibility issues come up, you realise you still haven't fallen in love like your mum said, you admit to yourself that it may never happen. You haven't finished dealing with this two issues when another arises, your hubby's phone is always ringing at late hours and almost all the callers are girls, shebi he has joined girls brigade ni! You ask yourself. You confront him and he neither accepts nor denies( the guy is classic like the CIA).
You get disillusioned with marriage because he doesn't treat you like the priceless jewel that you are, there has never been PDA in your marriage,he doesn't flaunt you around, after all they say men flaunt those things that are valuable to them. You start to question your self worth; were you too cheap for him? Did you give in too easily? Why didnt you play hard to get..( if you are reading this and thinking of forming hard to get, don't worry your case, we will use you as prayer point at SHILOH 2025).
Moving on, perhaps you are yet to have a child, : we see this days that pressure to have a baby comes more from a brides mother than from her in laws. You'd hear mother's make classic statements like " you don't want me to carry my grandchild before I die " (Biko are you Hana in the bible? ). Ofcourse the girl is not even sure she wants a child for a man she doesn't love. There is apparently no way out, she continues to swim in the murky waters of unhappiness.
The truth is most mothers attempt to model their daughter's marriage in a way they wished theirs had been.
Some mothers go as far as determining the complexion and height of their would be son in-laws..indirectly living out their fantasies through their daughter's life and gambling away her happiness. This type of mothers secretly loath the kind of men their husbands turned out to be.: they loath the pot belly and large girth coupled with a bald head( Aunty take your problems to the Lord).
Finally while some mothers meddle in their daughters lives out of good intentions? Others simply do not want their daughter's to have the marital bliss they never had. Afterall mother-daughter rivalry really does exist.
Written by Efa-man David
Follow him on instagram @efadavid
On facebook @Efa-man David
Photo credit: divadiaries.ng
.....fast forward six months later
Intro -TM-Wedding, .. months into the marriage reality sets in!, compatibility issues come up, you realise you still haven't fallen in love like your mum said, you admit to yourself that it may never happen. You haven't finished dealing with this two issues when another arises, your hubby's phone is always ringing at late hours and almost all the callers are girls, shebi he has joined girls brigade ni! You ask yourself. You confront him and he neither accepts nor denies( the guy is classic like the CIA).
You get disillusioned with marriage because he doesn't treat you like the priceless jewel that you are, there has never been PDA in your marriage,he doesn't flaunt you around, after all they say men flaunt those things that are valuable to them. You start to question your self worth; were you too cheap for him? Did you give in too easily? Why didnt you play hard to get..( if you are reading this and thinking of forming hard to get, don't worry your case, we will use you as prayer point at SHILOH 2025).
Moving on, perhaps you are yet to have a child, : we see this days that pressure to have a baby comes more from a brides mother than from her in laws. You'd hear mother's make classic statements like " you don't want me to carry my grandchild before I die " (Biko are you Hana in the bible? ). Ofcourse the girl is not even sure she wants a child for a man she doesn't love. There is apparently no way out, she continues to swim in the murky waters of unhappiness.
The truth is most mothers attempt to model their daughter's marriage in a way they wished theirs had been.
Some mothers go as far as determining the complexion and height of their would be son in-laws..indirectly living out their fantasies through their daughter's life and gambling away her happiness. This type of mothers secretly loath the kind of men their husbands turned out to be.: they loath the pot belly and large girth coupled with a bald head( Aunty take your problems to the Lord).
Finally while some mothers meddle in their daughters lives out of good intentions? Others simply do not want their daughter's to have the marital bliss they never had. Afterall mother-daughter rivalry really does exist.
Written by Efa-man David
Follow him on instagram @efadavid
On facebook @Efa-man David
Photo credit: divadiaries.ng
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